Bad habits are just that habits, and we all know what happens if we work on bad habits, we can change them. Sometimes its a very tough struggle and a parent has to weigh just how much they want to struggle and just what they want to struggle with. I knew I didn't want to deal with in bed attachment and it was one of our many reasons for not bed sharing. I've heard the stories of 2 year olds and older who just don't want to leave the bed. I couldn't deal with that so my husband and I made a point to not allow this.
Another was how she went to sleep. Many told us to just put her down and she should get used to going to sleep on her own in her own crib. Now this is where we have strayed. Our current bed time routine is to hold her as she dozes off. Could this become a bad habit? Sure it could. But I'll tell you what, I won't for one moment regret getting to snuggle with my little girl now while she lets me. I won't regret wrapping my arms around her and knowing she feels comfortable enough to fall asleep in mine and my husbands arms. There's just something heart melting about that. Feeling their weight in your arms and kissing their forehead as they sleep. Watching them nestle as the drift in and out of deep sleep. I'm sorry but this is something I won't regret and if there's ever a time when we're trying to change this habit that I forget that I'll come back here.
Sometimes bad habits IMHO aren't all that bad. Sometimes it's nice to cherish your roles as mother, father and baby. Sometimes it's nice to take advantage of the moments while you still have them. While they're still little and deal with whatever consequences come later.
A great song comes to mind that really sums it up for me, you can watch below with tissues in hand mommies. I don't want to look back and regret being so strict on what I could and couldn't do that I just plum forget to enjoy what was and what is.
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